Heal trauma together

EMDR Couples therapy in Vancouver, BC & online.

A safe space to heal insecure attachment wounds & relational trauma.

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Rebuild safety, trust & connection

Trauma Informed approach focused on healing the nervous system

For couples stuck in painful cycles, EMDR offers a powerful, nervous-system-based approach to healing. By processing unresolved trauma and attachment wounds, partners can release old triggers and create space for deeper understanding, intimacy, and repair.

EMDR therapy for couples offers a powerful, evidence-based way to heal relational wounds and move toward a more secure, connected partnership. Whether you’re navigating conflict, betrayal, emotional distance, or old patterns that won’t shift, this work supports meaningful and lasting change.

My training in other the evidence-based approaches to working with couples - Gottman Therapy and Emotion Focused Therapy is organically intertwined with EMDR processing to offer you the most effective support for your unique needs.

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Sound like you?

Noticing the same pattern of reactivity & triggers coming up over and over again

Wanting an approach to works with your nervous system to help heal past triggers that are showing up in your relationship now

Structure of EMDR sounds appealing to you and you are ready to dive deeper into the root of the issue

You long to move away from blaming to deeper understanding of what your & your partner’s nervous system is protecting

Here’s what we’ll do together

What to Expect: The EMDR Process for Couples

1. Initial Consultation & Fit
We begin with an initial session to understand what brings you in, your relationship history, and your goals for therapy. This session focuses on creating safety, clarifying expectations, and determining whether EMDR therapy for couples is the right fit for you both.

2. Individual Sessions (Assessment & Preparation)
Each partner typically participates in one or more individual sessions. These sessions allow space to explore personal history, attachment patterns, and nervous system responses that may be showing up in the relationship. This step is essential for ensuring EMDR work is done safely, respectfully, and without overwhelming either partner.

3. Stabilization & Skills Building
Before EMDR reprocessing begins, we focus on building emotional regulation, grounding skills, and relational safety. Couples learn how to slow down, recognize triggers, and support repair when conflict arises. This phase ensures that both partners feel resourced and prepared for deeper work.

4. EMDR Reprocessing (Individual & Relational)
EMDR sessions may involve individual reprocessing with the partner while the other partner is not present, or carefully structured relational EMDR with both partners present, depending on your needs and readiness. The focus is on reducing the emotional charge of past experiences that continue to impact how you relate today.

5. Integration & Couples Sessions
After reprocessing, we return to joint sessions to integrate insights, strengthen communication, and practice new ways of relating. As old triggers lose their intensity, couples often experience more emotional availability, empathy, and flexibility with one another.

6. Ongoing Support & Pace
EMDR therapy is not rushed. We move at a pace that respects both partners’ nervous systems and the complexity of your relationship. Some couples engage in short-term focused work, while others choose ongoing therapy for deeper attachment repair and growth.

At the end of the day, I want you to know:

Past experiences & arguments don’t have to continue holding you back. The tools to change the dance are not out of reach. Let me help you.

What we’ll work on

Imagine a life where…

  • Your relationship feels back on the path you envisioned walking down together.

  • Communication & expressing needs to each other feel safer and less scary.

  • You’re connected to yourself and your partner and feel like you have each other’s back.

  • Your past conflicts are no longer running on a loop. Conflict resolution gives you both a sense of confidence in your relationship.

Change is possible.

Change is possible.

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Questions?

FAQs

  • We start with a first intake session together to talk about your goals, challenges & strengths as a couple. Afterwards, you will be invited to complete the optional Relationship Check Up assessment from Gottman Couples Therapy before having separate individual intake sessions. Once the intake sessions are completed, we will only be meeting as a group for couples therapy.

  • Yes, please! To make sure it feels like a fit for everyone, it is recommended that both partners are present during the first consultation.

  • Couples therapy is a long term process. The intake process consists of 3 sessions (one together, two individual). After intake, most couples tend to see improvements in conflict resolution in approx. 5 sessions. I recommend continuing after the initial few sessions as only after conflict deescalates are e able to start doing deeper work to improve your connection.